Hold on to your kids
Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D., Gabor Maté p021: Belonging and Loyalty (Murder of Reena Virk)[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Reena_Virk] peer pressure through peer attachment
The Six Ways of Attaching
Senses: Physical proximity (haptic, sound, smell, visual)
Sameness: Imitation and emulation ("Be the person you want your kids to become")
Belongin and Loyalty: Laying claim to whomeve/whatever they feel attached to. This also gets disrupted when the first-born gets a sibling and suddenly has to share time/engery/attention from the parents.
Significance: Children want to please and get praise/approval from whom they are attached to. They want to share their creations/drawings/achievments
Feeling: Love, affection and other emotional intimacy. Children who have eomtional intimacy with parents can bear physcial separation better.
Being known: Sharing secrets, gossip, Being seen and heard psychologically
p038: Erik H. Erikson - Childhood and Society p038: Robert Bly "in 1935 the average working man had 40 hours a week free, including Saturday. By 1990 it was down to 17 hours. The 23 lost hours of freetime a week since 1935 are the very hours in which the father could be a nurturing father, and find some center in himself, and the ver hours in which the mother could feel she actually has a husband." The Sibling Society (New York: Vintage Books, 1977), p. 132 "Instant Culture", "Bubblegum Culture" Values and Traditions are passed on and communicated through social media and technology and not parental attachment. p041: "Natural Attachment Village" Parents attachment predominates and
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